Who do I work with?

As a marriage and family therapist, my training has given me the tools and insight to work with many different types of people and circumstances.

As a process-oriented, humanistic therapist, I don’t specialize in particular “problems” as that focuses on the problem rather than you. I do specialize in supporting couples that are seeking to transform their patterns of communication to find connection and establish security in their relationships.

More about my approach

Therapy is an opportunity for you to reinvent your reality. Life can be so hard, and as humans, we will often do anything we can in an attempt to relieve ourselves of those difficult feelings. You may find yourself suppressing or hiding those feelings with whichever method of avoidance you may choose (shopping, eating, substance use, work, you get it). Maybe you’re not even aware of those feelings because you figured out a way to disconnect from all the pain. Perhaps you choose to focus on others, sometimes coming off as controlling or demanding when all you are trying to do is get your needs met.

…leading to more disconnection, more isolation, and more loneliness. So what now?

The good news is that you already have everything that you need to change. I see my role as your therapist to walk along with you, and connect you to your experience so that you have all the information you need to make choices, take responsibility for yourself, and ultimately find comfort in the discomfort of life. The truth is, we cannot stop bad things from happening to us. We also cannot control what other people do, especially our partners. What we can do is be so connected to ourselves and our needs, we are able to handle almost anything life throws our way.

Couples Therapy

I want you to know that I can relate to what you are going through. The insecurities, the loneliness, the suffocation, the fear, the rejection, the distrust, the criticism, the defensiveness, the absolute shame you feel about not ever being good enough. I know it well, and I want you to know that it can get better.

I am incredibly passionate about couples therapy and helping people foster secure relationships. We form patterns of communicating and ways of being at an early age. These patterns can be complicated to change, especially alone. These ways of relating keep us stuck in loops that feel like the same fight over and over again, resulting in the same disconnection & feelings of stuckness, shame, and unworthiness. Whether you are looking to reconnect with your partner, transform your relationship, or peacefully disconnect from each other, I can help. We will explore your patterns to find a deeper understanding of yourself, connect you to each other’s experience, and build on skills to better connect and communicate with each other. I look forward to working with you and your partner to reach your goals.